Mental Health

Controlling Anger when you just can’t!

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Need abit of help contolling anger? This post will guide you through it...

Do you get angry at the stupidest of shit?

You know that it’s stupid but you ended up raging & going way overboard?

Controlling anger is possible

Here I am sharing how controlling anger is possible no-matter how low you have gone.

It’s not an easy one to face but then it’s not that great at the moment anyway is it?

Anger is part of depression (not always but it turns out I was depressed) & not a pleasant part my husband & kids would inform me, I would get extremely irritable for a variety of reasons.


Over-whelmed, out of control, ashamed, guilty & confused seemed to be my permanent state a few years back & I didn’t accept that I was depressed, because I still laughed, at times.

My mind would momentarily go into a space that was pure rage and blankness at the same time. I knew what I was doing but was so pumped that anyone in line was going to have a piece of how I felt in that moment of;

Shutting my finger in the door, dropping things, burning food. The kid' phones pinging with alerts, irritating each other, whining, banging, fighting. Husband wanting my undivided attention but I was listening out in-case I got called upon to be referee for who’s turn it is to choose the next WHATEVER blah blah blah. 

Pretty minor?!

This stuff sent me nuts!

NO, it didn't;

Work made me nuts

My illness made me nuts

Dads suicide made me nuts

Being in debt made me nuts

The bullshit of life made me nuts

I dealt with none of the above & kept fighting on like I thought I had too, but avoiding these issues meant that's all I was thinking about. So my tension would brew & not for long either! Then anger would just be there, like a switch!

If you (like I did) are thinking that you are justified in screaming at your kids, husband, who-ever because of pretty minor reasons then you, my cherub are possibly in denial and not facing the true cause of your anger.

I was totes guilty of this, always opting to avoid confrontation & real life in general.

Do ‘You’ stop and think about the REAL reason you get angry? 

Anger symptoms 

Lists taken from

  • Tingling
  • Heart palpitations or tightening of the chest
  • Increased blood pressure
  • Headaches
  • Pressure in the head or sinus cavities 
  • Fatigue

Types of anger

  • Chronic anger, which is prolonged, can impact the immune system and be the cause of other mental disorders
  • Passive anger, which doesn’t always come across as anger and can be difficult to identify
  • Overwhelmed anger, which is caused by life demands that are too much for an individual to cope with
  • Self-inflicted anger, which is directed toward the self and may be caused by feelings of guilt
  • Judgmental anger, which is directed toward others and may come with feelings of resentment
  • Volatile anger, which involves sometimes-spontaneous bouts of excessive or violent anger

If you are afraid that your symptoms are out of control, go get the help that's there.

You don’t even really need to tell anyone.

This is you accepting enough is enough & that only 'You' can fix you.

To do this though it truly benefits from having correct effective information from those that are there to help & not to judge.

Depression is a liar

The cycle of anger is so tough to break, it masks the depressive feelings that we don’t want to acknowledge. But, until you do exactly that, then the cycle will just keep rolling. 

You may have found other ways of dealing with anger that aren’t as noticeable like turning your anger in-wards. This too is extremely *Self-destructive and truly not justified.

Remember, *Depression tells you lies, mixes you up, makes you feel unworthy & punishes you from every accessible angle!

Fight back from now & find who you are again.

*Link-How to stop self-destructive behaviour

*Link-It's not always depression  ... This book is my current night-time read. So far so good, ahaaaa moments too!

My anger generally came from;

 Things out of my control & Other peoples shit!

But, it was my family that got the true brunt of my reaction or over-reaction to pretty minor trivial things. My head was so wrapped up in life that I would cave on a regular basis as in, all the time.

Nothing that my kids did was right, irritating little fuckers just wanted to strip me of anything and everything, energy/will-power/sanity.

I was upside down in my thinking and avoiding the ACTUAL issues in my life causing me to blast at my beautiful family.

Ultimately, over time I began to accept that my behaviour was;

*Unfair *Unforgiving *Unwarranted 

Controlling anger for ‘You’

Learn ways that controlling anger becomes part of who you are, push it towards something positive & that motivates you to create change & move on. 

Learn how to express yourself more effectively. 

Ways to release anger = *Exercise *Yoga *Music *Journal *Shower *Mindfulness *Punching-bag

Doing these types of things & having a few quotes around you can have a massive effect on your mood. Obviously, they need to be uplifting, inspirational stuff.

Even if you think this is all a load of shite, just suck it up & give it a real go & begin work from within.

*Link=Restorative yoga post

*Link=How to practice mindfulness post

*Link=Punching bag (Amazon)

Abolishing Anger 

I have made it super simple for you to begin today, by putting together the very first steps in helping you achieve results. Controlling anger is totally possible if you identify early what the actual problem is. In the ‘Abolishing Anger Guide’ you will be provided with printouts to guide you through finding out the true source of your anger for you to move forward.

Time to Transform ‘Your’ mood.

Feelings | anger management


Sign up for the guide, it breaks down how to figure out exactly why you are angry and to acknowledge and accept where your anger is REALLY coming from.

No more letting anger control you, it’s damaging to you as-well-as those around you. 

Gain some perspective and have confidence in 'Yourself'.

'You' can absofreakinlutely do this!

Feel free (anyone) to email if you don't do comments (I get ya)..

Take care,

Love, Jorja


...Good luck with this Controlling anger thing, try to always have in mind that;

'You decide how to react' ..

 This quote helped me to remember I wanted/had to change.


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